Child Development

Welcome to forum on child development.

There are many interesting studies on child development.

May be you would like to share some of the info on studies that you are interested.

cheers,

kimpl

Understanding Children — Language Development

Ref: Parenting Issues

Dear All,

Thank you for the reply to the survey.

We have the next course : Trends and Issues on ECE.

The parenting issues are very complex and those who want to take it as a research studies can take one step forward to investigate further and write the small or big thesis based on the parenting issues.

Meanwhile, we need to have someone volunteer to view the results of this survey and come up with an action plan for December 2010 or later if needed.

Amituofu.

Thanks to all for your cooperation.

kimpl

Great video.

psychology video Bandura and the social learning theory. Also learning aggression and the bobo doll test.

The kid with the finger hit home due to the influence aggression played in my development as a kid.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zq5vgcVPDgs&feature=related

Great Video

Dear Sis Cheow Lin,

Thanks for sharing.
All the best to you and ECE classmates in the coming exam.

With regards,
Gaik Yen

Education

Dear All,

Just a sharing with you all on what i see for trend now as now i work at Mitra Welfare Association.

We have a lot of workshop for public to attend, like positive parenting workshop, pre-marital workshop, couple support group, self exploration workshop, mental health workshop & etc. But most of our participants are in trouble already then only
they will think of workshop or find resources to solve their issue(like counseling session).

Recently, mitra line received many calls from parent request to have a session with their child as their child have problem. But, mostly is not children issue but is parents expectation on child or parent ownself have issue.

I agree that parenting role are important for child development. I believed also most of the parent know about this, but parent now are very busy on their work and not much time spend for child. I have a video clip to share on below.

Best Regards,
Bee Hui

Parenting Course

Dear All,

I am very glad to find out that most of you think parents are key to understanding Children.

You have learnt and gathered a wide range of resources from this course and will be accummulating more from now on with other courses available.

Time for a quick survey:

Feedback from you is appreciated before/ on 14 Sept. 2010.

How many of you would like to do the following:
(note: you may want to do more than one items, make your priority of three items only).

(1) organise talks/ seminars for parents in November/ December 2010 on special topics of your choice.

(2) form a team to conduct research on CD at yr work place with family /parents(especially to do case study).

(3) manage an IBC-CD-e-learning sites for parents on CD
putting the learning resources we have on this course and other reference resources.

(4) set up a public e-forum on CD for parents

(5) Create and manage a new e-site for parents using yr own e-sites (yr work place e-sites)
(
6) Others ( community work for parents) which you think you can do

(7) not interested in doing any of the above item.

Please state.

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(A) Your response can be tabled as follows:
Note: As your reply to this posing, please copy the following and fill in the column on "Rank"

(i.e. your first choice of the item is rank A, second choice B and third choice C.

e.g. Dr Kim's three choices

Item : Rank

1: A

2:

3:

4: B

5:

6:

7: C

(B) It is just a survey to do some fact finding and if we have enough support we will start making a proposal and formulate a research project paper.

cheers,
amituofu.
Dr Kim Phaik Lah

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Rough summary of survey results

Dear Dr Kim and all course mates,

Brief summary of survey results is as below while for the organizing committees setup and high level of action plans, we may probably bring in to discussion in the upcoming class this weekend ?

7 surveys collected (respond of item # 7 is not being calculated)

1st choice :
100% - organise talks/ seminars for parents in November/ December 2010 on special topics of your choice

2nd choice :
43% - Setup a public e-forum on CD for parent
29% - Others ( community work for parents) which you think you can do
14% - form a team to conduct research on CD at yr work place with family /parents(especially to do case study).

3rd choice
29% - Others ( community work for parents) which you think you can do
14% - manage an IBC-CD-e-learning sites for parents on CD. Putting the learning resources we have on this course and other reference resources.

with metta
waicheng

Parenting Course

Dear Dr. Kim,

Amituofo.
(A) My response can be tabled as follows:
Item : Rank
1: A (provided there is a mentor/team to guide)
2:
3:
4:
5:
6: B (provided there is a mentor/team to guide)
7: C

Survey

Item : Rank

1: A (Yearly two times for Parenting workshop at Mitra Welfare Association)

2:

3:

4: B

5:

6:

7: C

parenting course

Item : Rank
Dear Dr. Kim, mine will be,

1: A ( on going at Than Hsiang kindy)

2:

3:

4: B

5:

6:C

7:
Amituofo
tkn

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CD- respond to Dr Kim's survey

Dear Dr Kim
Below is my updated response to the survey.

(1) A
(2)
(3)
(4) B
(5)
(6) C (i don't have the professionalism background nor experiences, but if there is any opportunity contributing to the influence of the full inclusion education with related to the M'sia education act, i wish to be involved.) thx
(7)

regards
wai cheng

Survey

Dear Dr. Kim,
My response to the survey:

1: A

2: B

3: C

4:

5:

6:

7:

Yek Ming

waichengchan's picture

CD- respond to Dr Kim's survey

Dear Dr Kim,
Below is the response to the survey.

(1) A
(2)
(3)
(4) B
(5)
(6)
(7)

regards
wai cheng

Parenting Course

Dear Dr Kim,
Good day. Thanks for the proposal on the survey.
My response to the survey is as below:-
1:A
2:
3:
4:
5:
6:B
7:C

By the way, who will be the suggested speaker of the siminar?
I am sure the parents will be very happy if Dr. Kim is the invited speaker.

With regards,
Gaik yen

Quick Survey

Dear Dr. Kim,

My response to your survey:

1: A
2:
3:
4:
5:
6:
7: B (Actually, not capable or not in a position to offer help in the other areas.)

Truly,
Lyehin

Educating parents

Dear all,
The more we learnt from Dr. Kim 's and Ms Yeow's lectures, the more we see the importance of parenting skills in bringing up well- balanced children.
Just to share my thoughts; there is a need to 'educate' the parents, the very crucial initial TEACHERS of their children. Influential personel like Dr. Kim, maybe suggest to ????? that all future mothers must attend a psychology workshop or relevent course to bring up children positively so that the world will be a better place to live in in the future.
Sis Wai Cheng, I salute you! Your boy is so lucky to have you as a mom. For me, I regretted that I had erred in one way or the other in bringing up my boys but it is better late than never so thatI will be a better grandma.
Teachers out there, your roles are even more crucial ; as parents are teachers to their children, you are teachers to an ocean of children.

Quote:"The hand that rocks the cradle rule the world."

May be you'd like to share some of your experiences of how you can handle children differently after attending the lectures.

warmest regards
tkn

Good parenting education

Dear Mrs. Balan,

Thanks for your wise words from your many years as Principal of Than Hsiang Kindy.

Shall we then organise a seminar/talk for all parents in December this year as per Dr. Kim's survey/feedback (1). We could target parents of new students (with more specific topics), a week or two just before the start of the new school year? Later next year we could organise another seminar/talk for all parents, especially those with young children of 2-6 years.

I shall be happy to help with the English talks/seminars.

Amituofo,
Lyehin

parenting course

Dear bro lye hin,
why no? we have the facilities, the noted speakers and we have yu as the 1st facilitor.
Amituofo
tkn

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CD-re:Good parenting education (echo suggestion from Bro Lye Hin

I shall be happy to sign up and encourage participations of others of my mothers group at the office to join if we would have such seminar or talk conducted this year :)

Educating parents

Dear all,
I echo Mrs Balan's comment, it will be good to have a phychology class or workshop for parent. How about invite them to register the ECE class if they are interested?
Personally I benefit a lots from the ECE class by listening to lecture given by Dr. Kim, Dr. Lim and Ms Yeoh.
Thanks!

With regards,
Gaik yen

Awareness

Yes, Mrs. Balan, I agree with you.
The education to the parents is very important.
But, the awareness to attend such workshop is very important too.

Yek Ming

parenting course

dear y. ming
I understand your statement, to reach out to a few is better that none at all. Hope the 'few' will radiant to more and more.
Amituofo,
tkn

parenting course

Dear Y. Ming,
I understand your statement . To reach out to a few is better than none. Hope these "few' will radiant to more and more.
Amituofo
tkn

Parenting Course

Dear Bro & Sis,
Amituofo.
Look like most of us interested in organizing the parenting talk to Kindy parent. Is there any proposal on date?

With regards,
Gaik Yen

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CD-Re: parenting talk

Dear all,
Yes. As suggested by sis Gaik Yen. Let's put the wish into action plan.
Hopefully we can have one parenting talk scheduled by Dec 2010, open to all interested parents and not limited to only our kindy parents ? If the topic is interested, i could guarantee that my mother groups at work place would be very excited to join. We could also consult mitra line for the best known practice in the past as they have great experiences in organizing such event in the past and all this while.
really can't wait for this to happen. Hopefully i can be involved before i become too bumpy to be active around :)

amituofo
waicheng

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CD-re:Educating parents

Dear all,
I would have to admit that this is actually quite a "stressful" period of my life managing projects at work, running around religious commitment and other NGO activities while balancing my attention to my family as well as now on ECE course. All these should be managable if this happens at different timing, as for me as long as the "passion and fire" is there, i am survived. However, due to some unexpected changes in life recently, "coping" with all this at the same time has indeed become a great challenge. Anyway, i am still glad that i signed up for the class and even though i am not so sure about my confidence level towards the end goal, at least my interest is still driving me to the class and i have learnt a lot which i hope that i can put it into practice. Every time when i go back, i would share the learning with my son and hubby as part of the learning process together. I am truly grateful for their support and understanding.

EDUCATING PARENTS

Yes, I agree. Educating parents towards their children development is important.Some of the parents today are more attentive towards their earnings than their children welfare
Most of the parents would send their children to tuition centres or before and after school care to guide them with their academic work. Is that what a child needs for them to excel?

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Agree^^

I'm so appreciate that I had attended today class.
I really learn a lot.

Yes, I agree.
There is no problem children but problem parents/caregivers .They didn’t create the suitable environment even a good role model to child .This will cause a lot of problem.

parental pressure

Hi all,
I like to share a real scenario.
A couple of years ago, Mother S brought her girl C (my ex-student) to see me. Girl C is a pretty and smart Std 1 girl. When I enquired about her well-being at school
S burst out: “ C, you tell Mdm. Tan why you get position two instead of 1!’
I complimented: “Oh how clever of you, you must have been very hardworking.”
C: “ Mdm Tan, actually, her grade is the same as the 1st girl in class, but because her handing is so ugly that the teacher minus marks for her hand-writing.”
Poor C kept quiet and looked at the floor.
I said, “Mdm C, don’t worry your daughter will be a potential doctor.”

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CD-Parental Pressure

Thanks Mrs Balan for the sharing.

This would indeed serve as a constant reminder for parents or at least for myself to reflect on oneself.

Frankly speaking, I do have the worries that i may potentially caught into the same "dilemma" sooner in the few years time or later.(and i hope i don't)

-waicheng

CD-Parental Issues

dear sis wai cheng

i would say that your baby son is so lucky to have his mother come for this ECE programme, just right in time

i strongly believe he will get positive nurture / environmental influences in his growth & development

cheng see

Parent

I echo Sis Cheng See's comment, Sis Wai Cheng is great mum........ I am sure her son will be having good development in his personal growth.

Metta,
Gaik yen

Contemplating merits and developing gratitude

I would like to ask the mother, is the handwriting so important?
This reminds me what Ven. Wei Wu's teaching on the "Contemplating merits and developing gratitude"( "Guan Gong Nian En"观功念恩).

It's a real life story shared by Ven. Wei Wu.
"A girl brought back her school report card from the school for the past semester. She obtained excellent grade in her conduct grading by the form teacher, very good grades in 2 subjects, good grades in 3 subjects, average grades in 2 subjects and she just missed the passing mark in the last subject – the grade was highlighted in red ink. When the mother saw her report card, she immediately saw the red inked grade and started scolding the girl. There was no mentioned of her conduct grade nor the academic subjects she did well.

Do you think the mother will help her daughter to do better in future? No, the daughter was very hurt; it was not the first time this happened. She was so angry with her mother that she resolved that she would get at least 2 failures in the next semester!

Imagine if the mother had done the following: first she gave the daughter positive reinforcement, praising her for the excellent conduct grade and also the 2 subjects she did very well and others she did not do that badly; then she told her that if only she obtained 2 more marks for the final subject, she would have felt better; the mother then encouraged her to try harder and offered to help her in the subject failed. If the mother had done that, her daughter would have felt good on gaining recognition on areas she did well; she would also get the encouragement and support to improve on the failed subject in future."

So, would you like to turn‘contemplating faults’ into ‘contemplating merits’?

Encouraging to children

Dear Sis Yek Ming,

Amituofo.
I heard the "report card" story from Venerable as well.
That is good example where most of the parents is encouraged to practice it, that is recognite and encourage the children strength, then improve the weak area.

With regards,
Gaik yen

Encouranging to children

Yes, Sis Gaik Yen, but not only parents, no matter what role you are, teacher, educator, elderly to the children, as a part of our society, we should cultivate the encouraging environment together。 Don't you think so?

Encouraging to Children

Dear Sis Yek Ming,
Amituofo.
Yes. I agreed with your input.

With regards,
Gaik yen